It is wholeness based not on a pattern of unity, but upon an openness to all experiences, even experiences of isolation, pain and disintegration.
By this expansion of the potential range of experiencing, we would be more open to being touched by the beauty of nature or compassion for another, and more open as well to knowing our own limitations and human brokenness. We would be more self-empathetic, willing to see the truth of our lives, from the mistakes to the successes, from the pains to the joys. Here, no matter what the particular type of experience, we would know: "This is my experience; this is honestly who I am in this moment."
The Primal Wound, J. Firman & A. Gila