I have not come here to propose a set of specific remedies nor is there a single set. For a broad and adequate outline we know what must be done. When you teach a man to hate and fear his brother, when you teach that he is a lesser man because of his color or his beliefs or the policies he pursues, when you teach that those who differ from you threaten your freedom or your job or your family, then you also learn to confront others not as fellow citizens but as enemies, to be met not with cooperation but with conquest; to be subjugated and mastered. We learn, at the last, to look at our brothers as aliens, men with whom we share a city, but not a community; men bound to us in common dwelling, but not in common effort. We learn to share only a common fear, only a common desire to retreat from each other, only a common impulse to meet disagreement with force. For all this, there are no final answers. Yet we know what we must do. It is to achieve true justice among our fellow citizens.
The question is not what programs we should seek to enact. The question is whether we can find in our own midst and in our own hearts that leadership of humane purpose that will recognize the terrible truths of our existence. We must admit the vanity of our false distinctions among men and learn to find our own advancement in the search for the advancement of others. We must admit in ourselves that our own children's future cannot be built on the misfortunes of others. We must recognize that this short life can neither be ennobled or enriched by hatred or revenge. Our lives on this planet are too short and the work to be done too great to let this spirit flourish any longer in our land.
Of course we cannot vanquish it with a program, nor with a resolution. But we can perhaps remember, if only for a time, that those who live with us are our brothers, that they share with us the same short moment of life; that they seek, as do we, nothing but the chance to live out their lives in purpose and in happiness, winning what satisfaction and fulfillment they can. Surely, this bond of common faith, this bond of common goal, can begin to teach us something. Surely, we can learn, at least, to look at those around us as fellow men, and surely we can begin to work a little harder to bind up the wounds among us and to become in our own hearts brothers and countrymen once again.
- Robert F. Kennedy, former American politician and attorney who was assassinated June 5, 1968.
I also have another impulse, which I hope is more common, and that is to treat everyone with equal love and respect, regardless of their race, gender, sexuality, religion, or anything else. I essentially see the world as a collection of individuals, each unique in their brokenness, who have at their core a common and binding sameness of spirit…As a musician, it is a true privilege to stand on stage and watch a crowd of disparate individuals lost to the common, inclusive vitality that music offers; to observe people transcend themselves, united by that innate spiritual sameness that is buried beneath the condition of identity. It is deeply moving to witness and fully understand that each of us is uniquely strange in our individual personage, yet under the sway of some greater enfolding force we are as one.
- Nick Cave, Australian musician, writer, and actor
People often access therapy services when the symptoms of mere survival become more painful than we can bare. A psychotherapist can offer, perhaps for the first time in one's life, the missing experience of an unconditional, positive and warm presence - a good-enough, skillful, caring, and responsive holding environment, and the ongoing support and tools one needs to find one's own hidden power of will and inner resources for transformation.
“In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for (their, her, his) own personal growth?”
- Carl Rogers, American psychologist and among the founders of Humanistic Psychology
"The professional's job is to create a safe, supportive setting in which clients can effect their own growth and evolution. A good therapist stays away from the position that as a trained professional, she, he (or they) has the ultimate answers and techniques to fix other people. Instead, the therapist points the way to the clients' own resources, throws them back on their own innate healing power, and allows them to discover their own solutions."
- Christina Grof, author, teacher, artist, psychotherapist, and co-creator of Holotropic Breathwork.
Psychology has evolved in important ways in recent years and while the therapeutic relationship remains paramount, modern neuroscience allows the psychotherapist to modify the therapeutic relationship for special experiences such as trauma. Here the trauma-wise therapist may take a more active role in support of clients in their recovery from traumatic experiences.
"No recovery is possible from trauma without attending to issues of safety, care for the self, reparative connections to other human beings, and a renewed faith in the universe. The therapist's job is not just to be a witness to this process but to teach the patient how.”
- Janina Fisher, PhD, international authority on the treatment of trauma and dissociation
A human being is a part of the whole, called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. One experiences oneself, one's thoughts and feeling as something separate from the rest - a kind of optical delusion of one's consciousness.
- Albert Einstein, a German-born theoretical physicist, widely held to be one of the greatest and most influential scientists of all time
The existing scientific concepts cover always only a very limited part of reality, and the other part that has not yet been understood is infinite.
- Werner Heisenberg, Nobel Prize-winning physicist
To whom do we turn when darkness falls?
When the raging gale slices and cuts
When the earth is riven and water spoilt
When the once evergreen is burned and barren
And cold shadows wander in silence
Listen long and deep in the dark watches of the night
Listen for a hint of sound, the silvery melody of the illumined way
And soon you will hear - faint and wavering at first – an ethereal theme
Spinning light out of darkness, order from chaos, life from death
And whispering, always was, is, and always will be - now
From your own heart strings
A song of life and a love everlasting
Arising despite all sense evidence to the contrary
And you may be surprised to find, finally, it is you –
The Self of All – shining at the center of the storm
A harpist in the wind