therapy is not about fixing

A counselor provides a safe place to spill out the secrets and pain - and the hopes - that have been held inside. And in that sharing, a transformation takes place:

Some people think a therapist will try to fix them,  like an auto mechanic - tinker here, adjust there, change a part - and this will feel disruptive and invasive and troubling. But if it's a good therapeutic relationship, it's not like that. Ultimately you do get healed, but in the places you need to be and in a way that feels right. It's comforting and it's a relief.

In a strong therapeutic relationship, a special kind of magic takes place. Feelings are reclaimed, ancient hurts resolve, lives are re-envisioned, and the future opens up with possibility. Therapy can be a powerful vehicle for change.

- The Courage to Heal, Ellen Bass & Laura Davis