shame, blame and criticism have big impact

Ongoing assault with critical words systematically destroys our self-esteem and replaces it with a toxic inner critic that incessantly judges us as defective. Even worse, words that are emotionally poisoned with contempt infuse the child with fear and toxic shame. Fear and shame condition him to refrain from asking for attention, from expressing himself in ways that draw attention. Before long, he learns to refrain from seeking any kind of help or connection at all.

- Pete Walker, Licensed California Marriage and Family Therapist, from his book, "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving"