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the existential challenge

6/28/2025

 
Certainty of death. Small chance of success. What are we waiting for?

- Gimli, from "The Lord of the Rings", by JRR Tolkien

the great mystery

6/27/2025

 
The attitude of the American Indian toward the Eternal, the Great Mystery that surrounds and embraces us, is as simple as it is exalted. To us it is the supreme conception, bringing with it the fullest measure of joy and satisfaction possible in this life. The worship of the Great Mystery is silent, solitary, free from all self-seeking.

- Excerpt from "The Wisdom of the Native Americans"

why am i so hard on myself?

6/24/2025

 
A flashback-inducing critic is typically spawned in a danger-ridden childhood home. This is true whether the danger comes from the passive abandonment of neglect or the active abandonment of abuse. When parents do not provide safe enough bonding and positive feedback, the child flounders in anxiety and fear. Many children appear to be hard-wired to adapt to this endangering abandonment with perfectionism.

- Pete Walker, LMFT, "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving"

no ordinary Bird

6/20/2025

 
     It was morning, and the new sun sparkled gold across the ripples of a gentle sea.
A mile from shore a fishing boat chummed the water, and the word for
Breakfast Flock flashed through the air, till a crowd of a thousand seagulls came
to dodge and fight for bits of food. It was another busy day beginning.
     But way off alone, out by himself beyond boat and shore, Jonathan
Livingston Seagull was practicing. A hundred feet in the sky he lowered his
webbed feet, lifted his beak, and strained to hold a painful hard twisting curve
through his wings. The curve meant that he would fly slowly, and now he
slowed until the wind was a whisper in his face, until the ocean stood still
beneath him. He narrowed his eyes in fierce concentration, held his breath,
forced one…single…more…inch…of…curve…. Then his feathers ruffled, he
stalled and fell.
     Seagulls, as you know, never falter, never stall. To stall in the air is for
them disgrace and it is dishonor.
     But Jonathan Livingston Seagull, unashamed, stretching his wings again in
that trembling hard curve—slowing, slowing, and stalling once more—was no
ordinary bird.
     Most gulls don’t bother to learn more than the simplest facts of flight—how
to get from shore to food and back again. For most gulls, it is not flying that
matters, but eating. For this gull, though, it was not eating that mattered, but
flight. More than anything else, Jonathan Livingston Seagull loved to fly.

- Richard Bach, American writer

three necessary qualities

6/19/2025

 
Great egocentricity does not make a person great. The common ground of all creation is a greater source of life than any exalted isolation.

These three qualities are invaluable:
  • Compassion for all creatures
  • Material simplicity or frugality
  • A sense of equality or modesty

A compassionate person acts in behalf of everyone's right to life. Material simplicity gives one an abundance to share. A sense of equality is, paradoxically, one's true greatness.

It is a mistake to consider a person whose only interest is self-interest as either caring or courageous. It is a mistake to rationalize that excessive consumption contributes to the well-being of others by giving them employment. It is a mistake to imagine that a person who acts immodestly or in a superior way is, in fact, a genuinely superior person.

These are all egocentric behaviors. They isolate a person from the common ground of existence. They produce rigidity and death.

Compassion, sharing, and equality, on the other hand, sustain life. This is because we are all one. When I care for you, I enhance the harmonious energy of the whole. And that is life.

a life of illusion

6/18/2025

 
Sometimes I can’t help the feeling that I’m
Living a life of illusion
And oh, why can’t we let it be
And see through the hole in this wall of confusion
I just can’t help the feeling I’m
Living a life of illusion
 
Pow! Right between the eyes
Oh, how nature loves her little surprises
Wow! It all seems so logical now
It’s just one of her better disguises
And it comes with no warning
Nature loves her little surprises
Continual crisis
 
Hey, don’t you know it’s a waste of your day
Caught up in endless solutions
That have no meaning, just another hunch
Based upon jumping conclusions
Caught up in endless solutions
Backed up against a wall of confusion
Living a life of illusion

- Joe Walsh and Kenny Passarelli, American songwriters and musicians

remember who you are

6/17/2025

 
I am the eagle, I live in high country
in rocky cathedrals that reach to the sky.
I am the hawk, and there’s blood on my feathers.
But the time is still turning, they soon will be dry.
And all those who see me, and all who believe in me
share in the freedom I feel when I fly.
 
Come dance with the west wind and touch on the mountain tops.
Sail over the canyons and up to the stars.
And reach for the heavens and hope for the future
And all that we can be, and not what we are.
 
- Henry John Deutschendorf Jr. and Mike Taylor

soundness of mind

6/16/2025

 
The wise person knows the true nature of events cannot be captured in words. Confusing jargon is one sure sign of a person who does not know how things happen. But what cannot be said can be demonstrated: be silent, be conscious. Consciousness works. It sheds light on what is happening. It clarifies conflicts and harmonizes the agitated individual or group field.

and in the end

6/13/2025

 
We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.
Through the unknown, remembered gate
When the last of earth left to discover
Is that which was the beginning;
At the source of the longest river
The voice of the hidden waterfall
And the children in the apple-tree
Not know, because not looked for
But heard, half-heard, in the stillness
Between two waves of the sea.
Quick now, here, now, always-
A condition of complete simplicity
(Costing not less than everything)
And all shall be well and
All manner of things shall be well
When the tongues of flame are in-folded
Into the crowned knot of fire
And the fire and the rose are one.


- T.S. Eliot, poet, essayist, playwright, and author

people are never the enemy

6/12/2025

 
Hate the sin, love the sinner. Hard on problems, soft on people. Don't hate the player, hate the game. There are many different ways to articulate this principle, but they all speak to the same core concept in nonviolence: people are never the enemy, injustice is. The very idea that we can continue to use force, fear, and intimidation to enforce our will over another person to get what we want is the problem. The belief that attacking individual people and overpowering them to try and solve our issues in any sustainable way is the problem.

People are not our enemy. Violence is our enemy. Injustice is our enemy. Any worldview that stands against life, love, and community is the enemy. When we stop seeing people as our enemy, the framework for how we bring about transformation in our relationships and in society changes drastically.

When we see that reconciliation of relationships and movement toward Beloved Community is our ultimate goal, we see that the ways we try to make change must be aligned with this principle.

- Kazu Haga, a teacher and practitioner of nonviolence, restorative justice, meditation, community organizing and movement building.
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